I’m not sure how to start this. It’s about grandchildren and being a grandparent.
I want to say how much we love them, but if you have grandkids you know about that. If you don’t have grandkids you don’t have any idea and probably don’t care. I used to watch older folk pull out pictures of their grands and think to myself it was because those kids were all they had to occupy them. Now I know that wasn’t it at all.
The bigness of my love for them took me by surprise and I kind of keep thinking that I’ll grow out of it. I’m not. My feelings just keep getting bigger.
Psychology Today says that grandparenting falls into five different categories:
“1. Formal grandparent: follows what are believed to be the appropriate guidelines for the grandparenting role, which includes providing occasional services and maintaining an interest in the grandchild, but not becoming overly involved.
2. Fun seeker: emphasizes the leisure aspects of the role and primarily provides entertainment for the grandchild.
3. Surrogate parent: takes over the caretaking role with the child.
4. Reservoir of family wisdom (usually a grandfather): the head of the family who dispenses advice and resources but also controls the parent generation.
5. Distant figure: has infrequent contact with the grandchildren, appearing only on holidays and special occasions.”
While these styles ring true none of them is more correct than the other. Each style works as long as the time spent with your grandchild is built on just two things:
1. We will protect them no matter what
2. We will love them no matter what.